By Benjamin Inana
…shall a man leave his mother and father…
Ladies, one thing is to want a man for marriage and another is for the desire to be mutual. It is not enough just to love him and desire to have him as a life partner, the question is, “does he feel the same way too, is the desire mutual?”. Are you his ideal woman? Does he crave to have you as a life partner?
The Bible didn’t state that a woman should leave her parents house to stay with a man, no, it states that a man should do the leaving and cleave to his “wife”, not girlfriend. Do not do things out of place and expect to have a pleasant result.
You don’t have to move in with him and assume the status of being married Funny enough, sometimes your families may not know you are seeing each other, they may just be aware that you are in a relationship with a man not knowing him in person.
Some ladies strategically carry out the movement. First they visit with a pair of extra clothing in their handbag, which they’d not take back with them. They repeat the process and in no time they’d have a wardrobe full of their clothes in the guy’s house.
Ladies inadvertently cause their own problems and at the long run complain of being jilted. Let me ask, when you say “after all we have gone through together”, did you mean, after all the sex we have had or what?
Jealously guard your worth. You shouldn’t expect him to hastily say ” I do” simply because you have thrown yourself on him, moved in with him and practically living a life of being married.
It might have worked for some few ladies but doesn’t imply it will work for all. The cons are more than the pros, the pains than the gains. Do not subject yourself to chances, never throw yourself at a man. Instead make him crave for you, make him desire to do the right thing following due process if he really wants you as a life partner.
It is okay to meet up in the vice of getting to know you but never make his house your dwelling place. This might just dissuade him from going the extra mile of putting the ‘together forever’ ring around your finger.
Never cohabit with a man. Stop spending countless nights with him. If he needs endless nights, then let him do the needful and thereafter live happily together forever.
Inana is a weekly relationship coach and columnist for NIGER DELTA TODAY Online. He can be reached on Email: firstname.lastname@example.org and Tele: 07033660336.